Bladder Infections - The Start of an Accelerating Stress Spiral

I'm off sick from work again for the 2nd time in 6 months with a bladder infection, overlooking the near misses that I managed to prevent. I've noticed that when I've got one, even trying to go to work makes it worse.

I develop anxiety at work because I'm not close to a freely accessible toilet without people asking awkward questions, and there's a chance I could find myself stuck far from home if symptoms worsen.I also have to wear uncomfortable clothing at work, which really doesn't help. Then there's the tears when things get really bad. It's impossible to maintain dignity and professionalism with this problem.

Infections create stress themselves, so as a consequence workplace stress builds. When I'm at home I deal with it, I even feel like there is good work I could do but I know that's just because I'm somewhere comfortable. I even feel bad for being off, even though I know I'll be useless at the office. I am writing this up after all, so I can do some things, but unfortunately working from home doesn't seem to be an option.

The very acts of walking or sitting can be incredibly difficult - you can get frightened to sit down or move because it can set the pain off. Yet if I don't work I don't get paid so I'm driven to get back to work as quickly as possible, even if it means taking painkillers to help endure the discomfort. As the infections keep happening it makes me worried that I won't be able to pay the bills and that I'm becoming unemployable, so I work whenever I can possibly manage it. The problem is only persisting so I find myself on an accelerating stress spiral that does nothing but stop my immune system working and ultimately prevent healing. It's no way to live.

As infections recur, you can never tell when you get one and you can never be convinced you're over it. The longer I've suffered with this, I find the quicker the more severe symptoms develop, like passing blood, with fewer warning signs. The doctors have no clue what's going on, not least because samples they've tested show high white blood cell count but no bacteria, yet all the horrible symptoms. Now I'm being referred to a specialist. Drinking more water helps aleviate the symptoms but I've now been told by doctors that my urine is too diluted. I can't win either way.

I'm really lucky to have a loving boyfriend, but the problem gets in the way of our relationship too. I get stressed out because of the impact on our sex life. I can now no longer have sex more than twice a week without a problem, and some of the really fun stuff (like oral sex) is out altogether. Obviously it's generally a massive libido killer and sucks the fun out of everything. I'm also wary of us going on holiday now - I once got stuck overseas with one, miles from a doctor. Not only did it cost a small fortune (because the insurance company failed to handle my claim properly), it almost ruined a holiday we'd saved up for a year for. We are both afraid of going away, just in case I'm doubled up miles from home. Not only that my boyfriend has to see me in pain and grumpy too often, and noone likes that. I often feel bad for him to be stuck with me!

I actually used to have a job that was awesome too - it required lots of travel to really cool places but I've had to give it all up because I can't do that job when the risk of getting an infection at any random times has become ever present. I think it would be easy to become depressed as a result of such infections as they can tear your life apart, but I'm avoiding that as much as possible!

After 2 years of torture, I've saved up to take time off my current job to tackle this and transform my lifestyle. Ideally I don't ever want to have another infection, but I need to have something in place so that if it does happen, it can be dealt with. I know that ultimately I need to find a better way to live to prevent them too, and work and money is the biggest part of it. It's been a major barrier to healing.

I'm working through my notice but even after I finish there, there's a time limit on how long I've got to get better because the money will run out and I have to start work again. In that time I plan to heal and find a job that enables me to maintain some degree of physical comfort. That's a challenge in itself but I can see no other way. I'm going to have to find an alternative to normal working habits, I'm just not sure what. I did try working from home self employed once but I couldn't earn a living wage. I hope I find a solution - I've got 3 months to make it happen.

Ultimately no matter which way you look, bladder problems cause stress, they can get in the way of earning money...and even having kids. The stress they cause only makes more stress and it's a massive barrier to healing.

So that's my story. I'm really glad to have found your website, as it's such an embarassing problem it's difficult to really talk about it. Finding out ways to solve this issue is a priority, and I look forward to finding some solutions in your work. Thank you for talking about this so openly - you're an inspiration.

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Sep 17, 2015
Bladder Infections - The Start of an Accelerating Stress Spiral
by: Anonymous

Most bladder diseases are brought on by microscopic organisms from your gut getting into your bladder by means of the urethra.Some can be identified with sexually transmitted contaminations however the greater part of them are not transmitted to you from an accomplice. They are exceptionally regular in ladies on the grounds that the urethra and butt are so near one another that it's genuinely simple for these microorganisms (frequently E. coli) to get from your base to your urethra and after that up into your bladder.

Aug 07, 2015
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Apr 19, 2015
a man replies
by: Anonymous

I've got a bladder infection and am on the 3rd set of antibiotics.

I agree entirely that stress is the cause and I have to work at my job as I'm 58 and the chances of getting another are slim.

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